This is a follow up editorial to Monday’s book review of Gregg Olsen’s A Twisted Faith >>> Warning: The following may contain spoilers!
It’s hard to believe that anyone living in a world with any sort of media access could fall for such obvious BS coming from someone who claimed to be a “Man of God” considering that stories of sexual abuse by Preachers and other sorts are common in newscasts today.
It is human nature to cast stones despite our own sins, but nonetheless wrong. Yet I found it extremely difficult not to be judgmental while reading this book.
I think it must first be said that I was raised in a “holy roller” religion of sorts, the Church of God; notorious for its belief in speaking in tongues and other religious phenomenon not accepted in other denominations.
But Sandy Glass appeared to me, from the beginning, to be full of it. While I believe in messages from God, I do not and cannot accept that God will tell someone about a spouse’s impending death…especially when you’re involved in an affair.
Just a little too convenient for my tastes. And I’ll call it what it is: a prophecy that could only come true by self-fulfillment.
And essentially that’s exactly what happened with Dawn Hacheney. I think Sandy Glass conjured up a scenario, wished immensely for it, slapped a prophecy label on it, and Nick Hacheney ran with it.
Did Sandy help him? I don’t know and since there is no evidence that she did, we’ll have to assume she didn’t.
And Annette Anderson….her relationship with Nick was sold to us as if she didn’t really want to have an extramarital affair with Nick but did so in the name of God.
Yet repeatedly she was irate with him for being close to other women, for not showing up for planned meetings, and actually sought him out on some occasions.
What the –?
Seriously, I can’t fathom seeking out something or someone that I am so reluctant about.
Why would God break one of his “Top Ten” (Thou Shalt Not Commit Adultery) in his own plan? Not to mention that the means to this plan included murder (another top ten) and fornication. Anyone who walks even a mild walk in the Christian faith should know God just doesn’t work that way.
And Nicole Matherson…she is the one I feel sorry for. She is the one who is young with an apparent history of picking losers while suffering from obvious attachment/rejection issues.
But for her to still marry the guy after all this has come out? All I can say to her is, “Honey, get yourself the best counselor money can buy before you daughter learns to pick men like mom.”
And Diane, Dawn’s mother…give me a break! What kind of mother sleeps with her deceased daughters’ husband? Obviously the kind who enjoyed his flirtations – like blowing in her ear – before her daughter’s death. Yuck!
And, lastly, James and Mary Glass…while not directly involved with this rigamarole, is nonetheless pathetic people. Why? Because they KNEW what their daughter-in-law was up to with “Pastor Nick” yet they were willing to sell out their own FLESH AND BLOOD in the name of their grandchildren.
Well, I have something to say to them directly: Your child is your child, no matter how imperfect they may have been in the past. And for you to side with your daughter-in-law is WRONG. Family comes first. And your children, the ones who sprang from YOUR loins, are your first priority. While I don’t expect anyone to be cruel to their ex-in-laws in cases of divorce, I do not find it unreasonable for blood to be thicker than water.
If Jimmy had presented a direct danger to the children, I can understand your position. But he didn’t and he came to you for help, and yet you chose to side with a lying, manipulating woman who was nothing but a good actress. I personally hope that Jimmy has told both of you take a flying freakin’ leap and has moved on with his life.
Although the counselor in this case may have told these women that none of the happenings were their fault, he was wrong. If you are raped, that is someone else’s fault. But when you consent to a sexual affair with someone, it is a CHOICE.
EVEN IF YOU DO IT BECAUSE IT’S “GOD’S PLAN.”
Bottom line, this is a story about people who were unwilling to stop and think for themselves. And while I do not in any shape, form or fashion condone Nick Hacheney‘s actions – and I think he’s right where he belongs for murder – I think refusal to accept personal responsibility is a HUGE issue in this case.
While I or no one else on Earth will stand in judgment of those involved, it doesn’t mean that I’m required to set back and accept the continuous shoveling of BS being fed.
Just for once, it would be nice for someone in this group to admit they screwed up. They made mistakes. They were manipulated, but the choices were still theirs to make.
Then and only then can I not roll my eyes and fight off the feeling that I, too, and being pulled into a ring of manipulation and deceit.
No, I am not perfect. I have more than my fair share of faults. And yes, I know this is judgmental. Maybe I’m going to hell for saying it.
But I accept my role in it.